Any given night I might find myself curled up in a burrito of blankets, glaring at my Netflix queue as I decide whether to re-watch yet another random episode of "Supernatural" for the [number redacted due to shame]th time.

This is a show that, in theory, I shouldn't be all about: There's little diversity, it almost never passes the Bechdel test and pretty much every lady character who's said more than a few lines has been killed in a gruesome (often vaguely sexual) way. TL;DR: It's problematic af and it hurts. But, then a beautiful booty or totally-real moment of Destiel sexual tension appears and it just hurts sooo good. I know, I know. I hate myself too.

And if you run in feminist circles, you know that this fully embodies the popular phrase "your fave is problematic." That saying pops up a lot whenever an actor, musician, author, TV show, etc., does anything crunchy or offensive. So what do you do when your faves get clocked for problematic behaviors? Do you burn all your posters and CDs and T-shirts and give up your Stan-status? (Nah. Please don't do that.)

Because, say it with me: You aren't a bad person (or any less of a feminist) for liking problematic things [1].

If you're #deep in Internet culture, it can sometimes feel like people are split into two camps: The perfect unicorn-space-queen-cinnamon-roll of the moment or the rulers of the trash kingdom. And there's rarely (if ever) acknowledgement of the in-between.

If you're dealing in 140 characters that binary thinking is fine, but it's not so effective once you get away from your screen (to the scary, too-damn-bright world I call "the Outernet.") People are just way too messy and complicated for that to work and we'd all take our turn as the trash king/queen eventually.?

You can find something socially wrong with just about everything and everyone with just a tiny bit of research and thought -- from the food you eat to the car you drive to the things you watch on TV. Because people, as a rule, are problematic, imperfect really.

But, what's a feminist girl with principles supposed to do to stay strong in this problematic world? First: Take a breath. Second: Know you're probably already on the right track by asking that question.

I asked Laci Green, a smart, Internet-loving feminist lady (who I really admire) for a few extra tips on how to deal with the problematic faves in our lives. Here's what she said:

1. Give yourself permission to enjoy while also acknowledging flaws in media/people.

2. Don’t put anyone or anything on a pedestal, it’s dehumanizing.

3. Focus on being a cheerleader rather than a judge-and-jury when engaging with people’s mistakes.

4. Embrace baby steps and recognize that unlearning is a lifelong process.

5.Apologize freely; it’s okay to make mistakes. The expectation of perfection (where mistakes are moral failings) makes it harder for people to apologize and learn from mistakes.

5. Be kind to yourself and others, always. Assume the best of others and they will follow. We are all learning.

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So, no, you don't need to prune away the not so pro-social interests from your life to be a good feminist. You're allowed to sit back and take in the things that make you happy (problematic or not) and have some fun with them. Love your freaky Miley Cyrus album, your "Real Housewives" marathons or your paranormal man-pain queerbait-fests *cough* as hard as your weird little heart will allow.

Just use that love to try and make those Stan-spaces better: Write letters and meta and have those essential cultural conversations we're always talking about. You might just find that it's real easy (and so freakin' powerful and fun) to take all those sexy feminist critical thinking funk muscles you've developed and apply them to your other passions. You can give your faves some tough love.

[1]Here's an incomplete list of things that will not negate your feminism: liking butts; talking about butts; listening to that song with questionable lyrics (possibly/probably about butts); singing that song with questionable butt lyrics; failing to get up in what others think should be your lane; going to see that contrived heteronormative romantic comedy; crying during that contrived heteronormative romantic comedy; reading that book or watching that show with a love triangle; writing erotic fanfic about that book/show with a love triangle and/or watching and loving that tv show that gets so many things wrong.