Revealing you have an STD can often be difficult because of the stigma associated with them. Many people even worry their BF or GF will leave them if they disclose their status. But PositiveSingles, a dating app similar to Tinder, is designed specifically for people living with sexually transmitted diseases.
“I am not just [an] STD,” one person on the site writes. “I am funny. I am strong. I am beautiful. I am sassy. I am worth getting to know.”
"There's a terrible tendency to write off people with STDs in the dating world," PositiveSingles’s Richard Cordova said in an interview. "On the general dating sites or apps, many singles with STDs are often rejected by others immediately after they disclose their condition. It's really not fair. Should they be denied an opportunity for love simply because they struggle with a disease?”
In addition to your gender, city, and age, potential daters also identify from a range of STDs (from HPV to HIV) -- and likely a pool of prospective daters who share some of these things in common.
If you're downloading the app, chances are you've taken the steps to get yourself tested and know your status. But it’s just as important to prevent STDs and their spread. (Condoms are the only form of birth control that prevent both STDs and unwanted pregnancy.) If you do have an STD, though, the healthiest thing for you and your partner is to know. You can talk to a doctor or health professional about how to treat or cure your STD whether single or in a relationship.
Still, talking about something as personal as STDs can feel scary or humiliating. Despite the stigma, having an STD doesn’t make someone a “bad” person, and places like PositiveSingles can take away some of the shame and foster more awareness. The dating site also offers support forums, information on more than 900 STD care locations and more than 500 treatment stories.
To learn more about preventing STDs, getting tested and keeping yourself healthy, check out MTV’s It’s Your (Sex) Life.