Should ‘Fifty Shades Of Grey’ Include The Book’s Grossest Sex Scene?

You know the one.

Whether you’re a huge fan of “Fifty Shades of Grey,” one of its strongest dissenters, or just a normal gal who was having a good time at the family reunion until your aunt started talking about how much she loved the books, and now you’ll never, ever get that conversation out of your head no matter how hard you try, you’ve probably heard that there’s a particularly … interesting … sex scene that got people talking more than the 47 other sex scenes in the book.

So of course, as soon as they started casting the upcoming movie, the first thing we thought was, “Oh no, does that mean we’re going to have to watch the tampon scene on the big screen?”

For those unfamiliar with the tampon scene, here’s the gist. Anastasia (Dakota Johnson in the film) receives her monthly visitor, and Christian (Jamie Dornan) wants to have sex anyway. That’s fine. That’s all well and good. We support that. It’s the graphic nature of what happens next — as well as the clear invasion of personal space — that gets tricky.

Warning: What follows is a very graphic moment from “Fifty Shades of Grey.”

“When did you start your period, Anastasia?” he asks out of the blue, gazing down at me. “Err… yesterday,” I mumble in my highly aroused state.

“Good.” He releases me and turns me around.

He reaches between my legs and pulls on the blue string… what! And… gently pulls my tampon out and tosses it into the nearby toilet. Holy f—. Sweet mother of all… Jeez.

Sweet mother of all jeez, indeed!

No disrespect to anyone who loves this scene, but it’s definitely in dead last place when it comes to “Fifty” moments we’re looking forward to. First and foremost, because we want to actually like Christan Grey. The book (and therefore the movie) has an interesting dilemma with him, because while there are numerous people out there who love how this BDSM character was written, there are just as many who find his controlling, domineering nature offensive, and occasionally even misogynist.

There are multiple occasions where Christian interferes in Anastasia’s life — he has strong opinions on her diet, her friends, her appearance, and more — and it’s a draw for people who are enamored by that lifestyle, but a huge turnoff for others. The movie is going to have to appeal to people who want the taboo sex stuff but maybe a bit less of the extremely graphic, sadist stuff if it wants to succeed (and it does), and this is absolutely the first thing that needs to go if that’s going to happen. The majority of people we know don’t want to lust after a male lead who violates a woman by pulling out her tampon without asking, and for good reason. Because pulling out someone’s tampon without asking is a very nasty, cruel thing to do.

Without going into too much detail — because we all have bodies, and know that they occasionally must do icky things to keep us going — that scene really struck a chord when the book first came out because of the gross nature of the violation. Ana doesn’t mind (which is to be expected, as she minds pretty much nothing), but she should. She had only just started seeing Christian when the incident took place, and while the couple discussed many of the other things that the previously virginal Ana was going to be expected to do if she signed a sex contract with Christian, this one slipped by unannounced.

Christian pulled a very private, personal thing out of her body without being given permission to do so, and thus forced her to menstruate all over his house — which, besides being unsanitary and not very visually appealing, is controlling, demeaning, and just plain wrong. Every woman should have full control over her own body and cycle, and no one — not even Christian Grey — should take away that control without prior consent. It’s something you imagine a mean girl doing at a pool party, not the hot, broody, billionaire man of your dreams in a major motion picture. In short, we’re really glad that “Fifty” is going with the R-rating instead of the previously announced NC-17, because that likely means that this unsavory bit will end up on the cutting room floor.

But don’t lose hope for the Blu-ray.

What do you think, “Fifty” fans? Do you want to see this scene play out, or would you
be happy to see it go?

A real go-getter.
@ShaunnaLMurphy