Though it goes against our instincts as journalists, Jay-Z and Beyoncé, and as much as we hate to say it: Don't tell us. Don't tell us the intimate details about your wedding (if, indeed you are married), your honeymoon or your newly married life, because if all our celeb-watching has taught us anything over the years, it's that keeping it private will help keep you together.
Sure, if your goal is to get as much media attention as possible, let the headlines roll — hell, do a reality show while you're at it. But if you're smart, you'll ask yourselves where the couples who made up "Chaotic," "Newlyweds," "Meet the Barkers" and "Till Death Do Us Part" are now. They've all long since parted, no death required. So what else can you learn from celeb couples who've made it past "I do"?
(Not Too) Crazy in Love: The roller coaster of fights and makeup sex can be fun for some, but once you're married, it's time to push the drama to the side and focus on stability. Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson, who will celebrate their 20th wedding anniversary this month, described their marriage in Oprah Winfrey's O magazine as "a classic old-world family structure in which people like to spend time with each other and construct their lives so they can." Sounds sweet, right? Doesn't mean it can't be spicy as well. Christina Aguilera told Ellen DeGeneres that she and hubby Jordan Bratman have a tradition called "Naked Sundays" where they spend the day, well, naked. Who said stability and routine had to be dull?
Work It ... Only a Little: Depending how you look at it, Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise lasted either 10 years or three films — and we're hoping there's no repeat run with Katie Holmes. Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez lasted two years/ two films (and one music video) while engaged, but Ben and Jennifer Garner are still going strong, in both career and relationship. J. Lo and Marc Anthony take working on a relationship to an extreme, since they apparently refuse to work with anyone else: They shot a movie together, they toured together, and he dabbled as a photographer for their babies' debut in People magazine. Though they come as a package deal, this doesn't seem to help them with anything but the babies. Which brings us to ...
Baby Boy ... or Girl: Having kids — whether you adopt or use your own DNA — is one way to turn your coupledom into more of a family. Not that you have to in this day and age, but it sure seems to brighten up Will Smith's life with Jada Pinkett Smith when he can costar in a movie with his own son, Jaden. Though we would ask that you take pity on your future children (and us) and not follow the lead of your friends/ wedding guests Chris Martin and Gwyneth Paltrow in picking out names — nothing fruity, please. And if you do choose to adopt, try not to shop duty-free — even though it appears to work for Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, it ended in disaster for Mia Farrow and Woody Allen.
Lose Your Breath: While we don't want you to out-and-out lie, as celebs are wont to do when their couplehood is new or in trouble, don't spill all your secrets — whether it be in the form of the aforementioned reality show or an autobiography like Bobby Brown's "Being Bobby Brown: The Truth, the Whole Truth and Nothing But ... ." Whether your marriage lasts or not — and for your sake, we hope it does — keep some things private. It was bad enough when Bobby and Whitney let us into their bathroom, but we don't need to be in their bedroom too. And if and when you become pregnant, don't fret about telling the world — we'll already know.
Survivors: Yes, have a prenup to protect yourself, but make this marriage count. As soon as you get into the mindset that you can just get a divorce, that this isn't for the long haul, you're putting yourself at a disadvantage. Bono and his wife Ali? They've been married for 25 years. Sharon and Ozzy Osbourne? The same — despite a reality show and her being his manager. Sometimes those rules just don't apply. Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward? They celebrated their 50th anniversary this year — after making many films and babies together. "Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades," Woodward said in the book "Double Exposure: Take Two," before offering up the key to their longevity: "To be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that's a real treat!" Jay, hope you were taking notes.