Why I'm Perfectly Fine With Putting My Career Before A Relationship

I have the rest of my life to find a soul mate or whatever, but locking down my career path isn't something I want to put off.

Whenever I think about employment, I'm reminded of that one Rugrats episode where Tommy and Chuckie become "Big People" and start going to work. At first, they think it's a blast, but then reality hits them smack dab in the face, and they suddenly want to be babies again.

Thankfully, the career path I've chosen doesn't make me push mountains of papers with an oversize broom while a temperamental, blond-haired girl with pigtails screams in my face just for breathing. I love my job, and I love the work I get to do. Being an entertainment writer — or, as I like to call it, "working for the Internet" — was never something I thought about doing until it kind of just happened overnight. I realized I was pretty good at it, and random people seemed to enjoy the silly, '90s-nostalgia-filled content I produced.

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I've only been doing this type of work for about 17 months, and in that time span I've already accomplished things I never thought possible. I've gotten to interview some really cool people and write about things that make me (and the audience) happy.

However, I'll be the first to admit I'm a workaholic. I was one in school and now I'm one in the job force, but I've been trying to tone it down some. I'm 24 years old and have a (hopefully) successful career ahead of me, something I'm trying to improve upon each and every day.

Which is why dating and relationships really aren't at the forefront of my mind right now. More bluntly, I couldn't care less. Several friends and acquaintances of mine are getting engaged, married, and/or having kids, but the thought of doing any of that at this time in my life makes me want to curl into a ball and hide. For those of you who are in that current state in your life, more power to you. It's a special thing when you find someone you actually want to put up with for the rest of your days; I'm just not interested in doing that anytime soon.

I'm way too excited about upcoming things happening with work, and I'd rather explore those than the dating world. I'd like to use this time to discover exactly who I am as a person. Being successful in my career is much more important to me, and I want to focus all of my energy on that, and once that's figured out, then I can take dating much more seriously. Since my writing is currently the center of my life, it wouldn't be fair to a potential boyfriend to put him on the back burner right off the bat. I'm no love guru, but that's definitely a quick way to change your relationship status from "taken" to "single."

It can be difficult to see a ton of people dating and partying it up with that ~special someone~, but then I remember that revelation Gordo had on Lizzie McGuire. He said he liked the idea of having a girlfriend much more than actually having one, and I think that rings true for me, too. It won't always, of course, but for right now, that's how I feel. And there's nothing wrong with that.


Lizzie McGuire

I have the rest of my life to find a soul mate or whatever, but locking down my career path isn't something I want to put off. Obviously, tons of people have managed to do both simultaneously, and that's great. But I'm not like them. I know me, and I know how I operate and what makes me tick. I'd rather accomplish one major goal at a time.

Now, don't get me wrong. If some super hot guy introduces himself, I'll make like Mrs. Doubtfire and give a big "Helloooooooo" (minus the cake frosting). But I'm not constantly ragging on myself for not having a boyfriend when it seems like everyone else does. Thankfully, the only person who can put pressure on me to date is me -- and I'm not gonna do that. I already put enough pressure on myself for other things, so why bother adding to that list?

I feel so blessed to have started my work life in the 2010s rather than the 1950s. Women in the '50s were expected to find a man and get married right away. Now, there's nothing wrong with that if that's what a person actually wants to do. Thankfully, if I say, "I want to work first, then find a guy," most people will think that's totally and completely normal — because it is.

When the right person comes along, the right person comes along. But I'm not going to be constantly looking and obsessing over it. Until then, I'd rather pour my energy into something worthwhile: my work.

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