That’s Not Love: Abusive Dating Behaviors You Might Not Recognize

'Because I love you, I should smash your phone'

by Katie Kausch

You might think you know what dating violence looks like: screaming matches, name-calling, bruises. Sometimes, though, it can be so much harder than that to spot.

One Love, an organization devoted to ending relationship violence, wants to show that this kind of abuse can sometimes be difficult to spot -- both from inside and outside a relationship. Their That's Not Love campaign aims to highlight that just because a demand includes "because I love you," doesn't mean its healthy.

One Love / YouTube


One Love / YouTube


Behaviors that start out innocent enough can easily turn sinister.

One Love / YouTube


One Love / YouTube


And sinister behaviors can give way to physically and emotionally violent actions.

One Love / YouTube


One Love / YouTube


One in three teens and 1 in 2 college students will be the victim of an emotionally or physically abusive relationship, making it that much more important to recognize the signs, according to Love Is Respect, another anti-relationship violence group.

Despite how many people will experience abuse, 57% of college students say abuse can be difficult to spot, and 58% say if they spot it, they're not sure what to do about it.

You can watch the full video below, and visit One Love's website for more info on dating violence:

If you or a friend are in an abusive relationship, you can discreetly seek help online if you don't feel comfortable talking to someone about it in person.

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