Kayla and Amanda must make the decision of their lives; do they raise their babies as unprepared, single mothers, or consider adoption, in hopes of providing a better life.
I am a mother to 5 amazing children. I am 25 yrs old and a single mother. I decided last year adoption was best for my 2 youngest children. It's not only hard on the birth parents but also the adopting parents. I see and hear about my boys all the time. One day they will come back to me and tell me THANK YOU for giving them a great life. It is so hard to experience an adoption, but in time it gets better. You are always going to be their mother reguardless of who raises them. I am so glad Isabella's adoptive parents are keeping Kayla in her child's life. I hope Rob has decided to keep his daughter for the right reasons. Most adopting parents are not "strangers". I knew who was adopting my chiildren and we spent many weeks together for months on end. When you decide to do adoption, you don't lose family...you gain family. one day your child will look back at you, when they do make sure that day they have a reason to be proud of you. I love my children, I will always love my children, but now i have adopting parents who i love just as much. they have changed my life and i have changed theirs. I don't regret my choice and I don't feel like a failer! you didn't fail Kayla, Stay strong!!! Some days are rough but you will get though it. you are not alone Kayla!! Don't listen to the bad talking people who have not lived a day in your shoes, they will never understand until they see and feel it for themself. The only bad thing I have to say is, AMANDA...you said you wanted a girl...you had a girl...WHERE ARE YOU NOW??? That's your daughter, you decided to keep her....grow up and be a mom!! You crushed the hearts of 2 amazing guys by deciding to keep her and then you leave her with a single dad. People like that make me so mad!!!
I believe when u are young and uneducated then only u urself can make the final decision for u and ur baby. Unless u have family who can lend a helping hand until u can get on your feet with someway of bringing in income to provide for you and ur baby, then adoption is the best way to go. Personally i dont think I could ever carry my child for 9 months then hand him/her over to "strangers" and just visit as if i was not a part of that child. The saying always goes...where there is a will there is a way. Have faith and determination and u will succeed! And in the long run when ur child looks at u as she or he is graduating high school they will look at u and thank u for never giving up and being a fighter for ur family.
i just watched the episode n have to say amanda is wrong in not trying to be there for her duaghter(thats the way i view it as a father but i know its hard n she might need time). kayla did a very hard thing n luckily it with people in her family n that should make it easier for them all. i just hope they can all work thing out in there lives n be there for there kids when needed. children r so amazing n complicated it is hard but it is worth it if u want it n feel u can give them what they need n some people know that they arent able at that piont in time to be the best for there kids so i have to give kayla alot of credit i go nuts when my sons mother has my son its hard.
best of luck to u n hope it all works out for u
i just hope these girls dont regret there choices. I got pregnant at fifteen. and not once did i ever think about aborting or giving it up for adoption. My sons father kicked me to the curb and i decided to have it alone. my son is three years old. and im so happy!. its not imposible to go threw it alone. everything is possible when you really desire it.
That's one of the reasons why there is drama in their lives because they don't think. They're so stupid. When I was their age, I had more sense than them.
Kayla is a good person.. and one day will be a good full time mom.. Amanda is a sad person.. and her daughter is gona end up hating her..How sad... Kuddos to Kayla
Wow rob is pathetic. First he knocks up a girl, collects welfare for his other two kids, and pressures her to keep the baby on the way!! I hope he wises up and decides to give that baby to a family that can raise her without state assistance!
Bella's mommy is such a good mommy!!!! She was still pumping her breast milk even though she did not have her baby!!!! Most mom's that do have their baby dont even want to breast feed and this girl did it with no hesitation!!!! Kudos to her. She put her feelings aside and chose what she believed would be best for her baby.
Rob and Amanda's baby has lucked out. She was right from the beginning: she wasn't ready. But Rob turns out to be a father, not just a babydaddy. Sheer luck! I hope Rob finds an amazing woman who is ready and wants to be a mommy, and Amanda steps aside to let them be a family. Kayla needs tp back away a bit, and let her child and her parents be a family themselves. She won't be able to be "just Kayla" forever. What is she disagrees with their parenting decisions? Can she really back away, or keep quiet? What about teen years, or the kid trying to play one against the other? Kids get one chance at childhood, and Isabella deserves and needs one set of parents, one strong single identity of "Mommy".
Amanda is a spoiled brat! She says she wants what is best for her daughter, but her daughter only having her father in her life is not what is best for the baby, it is what is best for Amanda! Becoming a mom is a life changing experience. It is no longer what is best for you, but about what is best for your child. You suck it up, take responsibility and do the best you can just like anything in life should be dealt with. Anyone can be a mother, but with hard work you can become a mommy.
16 and pregnant gave a better view on adoption then this show
Rob and Amanda's baby is adorable :) I know everyone is talking crap on Amanda and all, and how Rob is the ony one taking care of her... but she didn't want the baby to begin with. If you aren't ready to be a mother; you won't be. It took me almost a year after my first daughter was born to realize this.. and it was not easy! She didn't want to be a mom.. Rob wanted the baby--he got what he wanted :)
This doesnt display how adoption really is. There is so much more raw emotion. I havent given birth yet and I've picked a family who is a distant relative. I go through hell everyday. Im in this alone. The word decision doesnt sum up the complexity of this situation. Amanda was right for walking away if she could handle it, but she should have also stood up for what she thought was best for her child. I feel for kayla, because I know how up and down everyday is when dealing with this. That being my opinion. Stop and consider before you trash talk these women for their actions. That this isnt easy and you wouldnt understand if you havent gone through any of this. This is by far the hardest thing I've ever gone through. And Im convinced it will change my life. Theres no rule book for mothers.
kayla, you had such an amazing story! i cried threw like half of this, i could have never had the strength you had to give my daughter up for adoption. It makes me extremely happy also that you get to see her every 2 weeks :) As for amanda, grow up, honestly if you think you screwed up in not giving your daughter up for adoption at least try to make it better, be a part of daughters life, not a worthless mother. it's really sad that you need time to adjust to being a mother. Its great that rob is taking care of the baby like a responsible adult.
And I thought Kayla made her decision based on the right reasons. I really hope she's doing well, and is feeling better about her situation. I can't even begin to imagine how she feels.
I give props to Rob. He's a good daddy, and I think his feelings on adoption of HIS child should have been taken into consideration from the beginning. And, I thnk that if she didn't want the baby, him keeping her and raising her should have been the first option. I disagree with the way shes handling it afterwards. She agree'd to keep the baby and then she just walked out because its "too much to handle". She made several decisions which led up to her having that baby, so theres no excuse to just run away from it now!
amanda/rob situation is a good example of why you need multiple approaches to 'protection'...a condom AND the pill is a good line of defense. i feel for the kid with a dad trying to play the role of a father and a mother still discovering her voice in this world and find her way...i think amanda summed it up well - there was an opportunity to do something selfless and in her child's best interest and instead she blew it. also as others mentioned it would have been nice to see the otherside of this picture (the emotional roller coaster of adopting) as well as the inclusion of a 'special' needs (the high needs area that most kids of color fall in) adoptions.
Stay strong Amanda!!!!
I feel for these girls, but I think there needs to be more about the adoptive parents and what they go through. I know exactly how those guys felt when Amanda called to tell them they weren't getting the baby that they hoped for. I suffered a failed adoption as well, and it is tough. There should be a True Life on adoptive parents and how they came to adoption, infertility, and the painful struggles along the way. It's not just about the girls placing their child into loving homes, but because they do, it allows people like me to have a family.
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