Nikkole discusses her mid-pregnancy breakup with Josh and their relationship now.
I have two children, they are 14 months apart. I got pregnant with my daughter four months after my 18th birthday. My babies father is8 years older than I am. I was always wrong, he was always right. He controlled are finances, where I went, what I did, and personally believe that getting pregnant with my second child was an "on purpose" for him. It took me three years to realize he wasn't the man I wanted or needed him to be, for me. I worked 40+ hours a week, went to college full time, and raised my two kids. I was the short order cook for what ever he desired. I am soo happy to see that Nikkole did not waste three years of her life on someone that will never be who she wants. It is extremely hard to wake up one morning and realize , Hey I'm a single mom, and be completely okay with that thought. I am excited to see her thrive as a mother, young adult, and woman...
in Ryan's case I agree..Josh did really look Ryan a saint but in Gary's situation with Amber...uhmm,I slightly disagree cuz although Gary have his "jerk" moments,Amber also nags him excessively...Gary showed that he's trying he's very best to be a dad taking care of their baby...
nikki! i just want you 2 know it was a relief after seeing janelles show to see a teen mom that has respect for her family and loves her child. ur a beautiful smart girl even tho you were a bit of a push over when it came to josh...i dont blame you for giving him so many chances i did the same with my daughters father when i was a pregnant teen. i just hope you see that josh is selfish and has no concern for your feelings...and even tho it may seem like ull never find anyone else...you will and hell be amazing and until u find that guy u have your son who you can tell your going to be a great mother to. well i wish u all the best and hope to see more updates on how you and baby lyle are doing!
Exactly..I totally agree
I know huh!! Ryan looks like a really good father compared to these guys. And Gary looks awesome compared to these fathers.
The guys so far this season make Ryan look like a saint and Gary look like Einstein!!!! How did they find these guys?!
This should be a huge message to anyone thinking about dating him! He should be embarrassed after watching it, but I doubt it. He was a jerk the whole time, & saying during labor that guys pain thresh holds are stronger, & acting the way he did during was unbelievable. Then he doesn't help, is calling her selfish, & expecting so much, when acting like an uncaring, selfish, despicable ass! That is not a guy someone will change, he will not be nicer to someone else, he is not a victim, & may never like anyone else. He's a loser, & seemed emotionally abusive. There is no excuse, it wasn't her fault, he will do the same to anyone! Just treating her like that near the baby is going to effect the baby too, let alone it's mother! I understand why a girl would have a hard time, & the was he dragged her down would only add to it. Classic abuse type hold too, which looks so much like this show, & complicates things more. This is a guy that isn't needing to just grow up, or going to. His goes beyond the immaturity of other teen dads shown. He would have to work hard to change!
I thought it was funny when he Josh said, "Nikkole, you are selfish. You make it all about you. Never about me. That is why I broke up with you before" or something along those lines. I had to laugh at how selfish and dumb he sounded. He was mad because for ONCE she gave up watching HIS kid to go to a dance for herself and that was not okay because he wanted it all about him, all the time. She is actually one of the least selfish people I have seen on here and he is the most selfish (he's right up there with Ryan from last season). She watches their baby all the time, gets up all night long with the baby, and then tries to go to school. He has NONE of those responsibilities and then doesn't "allow" her one night to herself. You are a beautiful and smart girl and you will find better. You are still young Nikkole, just wait. Oh yeah, Nikkole you need to watch out. That is one of the most common signs of a controlling boyfriend. Especially when they break up with you to get with other girls over and over. He KNOWS he has a control over you so in his head he thinks "Oh, I can break up with her, get with this other girl, and then go run back to Nikkole because I know she will take me back!"
What worries me is there is a chance that Josh is going to one of those fathers that flakes out on being involved in their children's lives. His flakiness was evident on last night's episode, when he refused to spend time with Nikkole, after she left her homecoming dance, to hang out with him. I just hope that Josh realize that in order to be a great dad, he is going to have to make a lot of sacrifices and put up with a lot of sh*t (both literally and figuratively) and suck it up. It is quite obvious that he has a problem with authority figures (also problems with discipline ever since he was expelled from school), as well as, problems with showing someone respect.
i totally understand where she is coming from it is hard to have a bay.bee with someone and be with them for so long and fully recover from what you had and what your used to its har to raise a baby alone even like moral support helps when you have a child i kno first hand i get her crift completely
how can u sit there and say u realize that ur way better off without that loser, then say "i still love him"? ur mom has every right to not allow him in the household....he is a loser and treats u like ****... what kind of a man cheats on his pregnant g/f? EXACTLY he is not a man he is a little boy and will NEVER grow up..WHY CANT U SEE THIS NIKKOLE? HE IS A LOSER AND ALWAYS WILL BE, U DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER!!!!!!
Ugh, I hate to hear that you "still love him", but I do understand. Love is just a small part of what it takes to spend your life with someone. You need a strong foundation, that doesn't include emotional abuse. So I'm glad to hear you say that you do know you are better off without him because you very much are!