Hear more from '16 and Pregnant''s Lori after she spoke to Dr. Drew on the 'Life After Labor' finale special.
Lori, I understand that the decision you took was one of the most difficult in your life, but I'm absolutely sure that you did the best for Aidan. Maybe someday you can be reunited again with your son.
Of course it was a cruel experience for you, but I hope it serves as an 'example' for other relationships. Since you can't get pregnant again and think of other adoptions. A child is being cared for, otherwise, simply don't conceive. There are several methods of prevention and hope you've read about and retrain and to prevent future conduct.
Hope you're well.
Tiffany, your comment is completely stupid and childish. How can you have the moral capacity to humiliate Lori, when she has no emotional or economic conditions to raise a child? Understand that neither Lori's boyfriend gives the support when she needs. Here the theme is the welfare of the child. If the mother has no ability to take a child, she can give it for adoption. I think it was the best decision for Aidan. And I think that you Tiffany, is the last person who can judge the behavior of Lori to give her child up for adoption. This is a proof of love, she wanted the welfare of her son, even though this is a difficult decision to take.
Lori - I dont understand how someone can give there child up when they were adopted. You want your kid to feel the way you did or do? & then you say you want 4 more kids. I think you shouldnt have any more kids since you couldnt take care of the 1st. I mean damn you can take care of your new puppy you replaced your child with.
"It's very upsetng and hurtful...my children i love them to death" you know lady - you could have shown love a different way. You could have loved Lori's baby
What a brat!!! Having the baby was your wake up call! Seems like your mom is raising the child and you are running away from your responsibility! Forget your friend and all that cool stuff! It gets old! When your son starts growing up your going to regret not spending that time with him building that motherly bond! You were better off giving the child up for adoption and letting some other loving parents who cant have children care for him, and spend the quality time that he needs! If truly love your child and want to continue raising him you must be a mother before a teen. You seem so angry with your mom and for whatever the reasons are STOP IT!!! GROW UP!!! If it was not for her god knows where that baby and you would be! GROW UP... If your frustrated go workout.. go do some yoga.. and relief some stress! At the end of the day in you really have to sit and prioritize and work around that what it is you want to do in your life! School ok GREAT! finish your high school or GED and go to a community college. Whatever it is that you want to do prioritize and work around whatever it is you want to do in your life. As for your mom she does not deserve that stress. The least you can do is have a little more respect for her. Wait till shes done talking! Don't interrupt her in national television! I haven't seen one thing shes said wrong! She tells you cause she cares and loves you. She wants the best for you! When you can stop thinking about me me me and can acknowledge what she does and appreciate her by not taking advantage of her watching the baby all the time and stepping up to the plate than that's your relationship with her will change! It's bad enough dads not around don't make it worse!
statistics show 80% of families now in days are dysfunctional! Everyone has a story, past, and bad things happen! Its time to leave the past behind, and press forward to whats ahead! Stay focused you seem like you've been thru alot now is the time to stay strong! whether things work out with babby daddy or not don't forget to do what's best for the child always. That's how your break the cycle........
You have such a great attitude! Keep it up. What you are trying to achieve is hard but not impossible. Don't give up patience is a virtue, and will pay off at the end. Love the fact your mother is supportive, and your mother in law as well. Wish you all the luck in the world :-)
Be wise and take your mothers council! For she see's more than you can for she has lived more than you have! Your child's father is a spoiled brat, and his mother should have done more time out on him! He is not gonna change , and don't expect him to be a good dad because he is still a kid himself! He knows that's his child but it still has not hit him! He is a dead beat person, father and you should not allow him to put you down in any way shape or form! Learn to ignore him, and if he does not respect you then you really need to ignore him!!!!! Your daughter is gonna grow up seeing dad treat you that way, and she is gonna think its ok! When she grows up she will allow that as well! That's called ABUSE. Mental ABUSE, and if you don't think so go back and watch the video when you went into labor, and listen to what he is saying?!?!?!? Obnoxiousness this kid just needs to get his a** Kicked! Forget about him! His action's show he is a looser. Focus on your child, and finish your school so can set an example for your daughter, and not be 40 yrs old still living with MOM!
Chelsea! Your father is awesome! Babby daddy sucks like the majority. So it just means you have to be mom, and some what dad too. No matter what happens never talk negative about the father to the baby. It is not her fault daddy is a dead beat. Your doing great. Keep your priorities in place and always do whats best for her which means doing everything you can to finish your education while living with dad so you can give her a better future, and never have to depend on anyone. The day you fall in love make sure its for more than just a nice guy or he's cute!!!! lol nooooo those are the wrong reasons. Yes i believe attraction is important but more important is a man who has good values and morals who will be a real father to your baby girl, and that is not lazy and bring the bacon home!!!!!! LOVE DON'T PAY THE BILLS!!!!!! Get to know the person prior to bringing him to meet the fam!
I can relate with all of you! I was a teen mom too. Child father walked out when I was 6mths pregnant. Was a troubled teen. Hanging out using drug's. Parents kicked me out at 15! I dropped out of high school. Was working at the time. Thought I was on top of the world. But boy was i wrong! Had to work to support myself. Anyway meet this guy thought he was my bff. dated for about a yr and ended up knocked up. He was not ready to be a dad. My parents were furious when they found out but were not willing to help out. I was no longer was there responsibility! But even with no support I had my Daughter at 16. Changed my life. Went back to school and after a few semesters i got my GED! When the child was 9mnths old dad happens to come by my job one day like nothing. He's sry and wants to see his child. I was completely against it. But at the time my mother and I developed some what of a relationship we never had and convinced me to give him another chance. The child deserve to know his father etc..... Took her advice and in fact he was doing his part. Then we tried to work it out for the baby, and got pregnant again!!! This time we had so many unresolved issues i left him. I was 18yrs old and had the baby alone. He was still in the picture but not as a family. Seven yrs have passed since then I am now 26 With TWO kids in grade school. Doing the mom, and dad thing. He has never paid me child support. Even thou I have taken him to court. Which by the way his child support is less than $200 a month! That he cant pay but yet he has a new iphone 4 lol..... I have worked since I was 15 and have never stopped since, and have been threw sooooo some many struggles to try to pay the simple stuff like a light bill!!! Thankfully I have developed over time working skills that have enabled me to find a decent employment. but threw all this I broke the cycle in my family. I missed on alot, I had to grow up too quick but it was the choice I made, and faced up to it. I am in my 2nd your of college. I drop my kids off at school at 8:15 am and head to class 3 days a week till noon and go to work from there. Get off from work at 5:30pm to pick them up from extended day at school, and go home to cook, do homework with kids and try to have them in bed no later than 9pm. To then clean up and finish any homework I got. To do the same thing the next day over and over again! That is my life. Hard but I love my children so much that I sacrificed it all for them, and try to do best with what I have. My daughter, and I are currently working on our spare time with the PTA group from the school and helping them publish 1st grade's book! Im excited, and my son is doing average is school, but always encourage them to do above average. At the end of the day I cant wait for some prince charming to come and make it happen for me! I have to do it myself!!! By making the right choice's for my children, and I. Life is what you make of it! The choices you make today will determine where you will be 6mnth from now, and so on! No one's perfect. You live you learn.........
Your story touched me. I know deep inside your hurting but nothing time wont heal! The good thing is you know your child is in a good home =0) As for your mom she does most of the talking and think she has no heart! You really had no choice but to give your child up for adoption because she told you can not live at home with the baby! She really left you NO CHOICE! I'm sure getting pregnant at this age and not having the support from the dad like you should have. Which it happens because your both young. I know you had to to choose the ultimatum of giving the child up for adoption! But its already done. Your mom thinks she made the right choice for you and the baby. Even though she should have allowed you the choice by saving you all the emotional distress that your baby, and you would have gone threw! If you feel depressed take counseling don't hold on to the pain because it'll get worse, and don't worry about others. Life continues!
I watched the reunion and the father is steeping up to the plate! Its important that you let him be him, and let him choose for himself to form the family, and want the marriage thing! Don't push it or say well i wnt to be married and uuuuh he wants what's best for his daughter and then you look at him and say right? Your going to push him away with that. In relationships the women makes the man and vise verse. If he is willingly there allow your relationship to grow without manipulating it or forcing things. You still have alot of growing up to do. Do not think of moving out till you at least have your diploma because if you don't do it now. Trust me you never will never get around to it because as the child grows it only gets harder! Take advantage that you are at home with your parents and you don't have to worry about working , and paying for daycare to try to keep up with a household! Try to finish school even if its from home or even a GED, and stop giving your mom, brother, and everyone an attitude! You act like a brat! Grow up! its not there fault your in the potion your in! Thank God for her that she loves you despite the fact your not her natural born daughter! There are biological moms now who don't do what she does! Praise her and help her around the house too.
Leah you learned from your mistake from pushing your child's father away. He seems like a wonderful father, and man. He sold his truck and sacrificed a lot more than any other one these guys on the show. I hope you two can work it out. Its key you understand that now you have to be a mother before being a women. You have to put your wants and needs 2nd and think for whats best for them! No more parties or hanging out. At this point them being so small going out once a month is a lot especially if you are trying to work things out with the dad. Doesn't mean you cant be happy but priorities have to change! But are doing great, Keep it up.
Kayla!!! You are making the right choice in not wanting to rush things, and seem to have a great head on your shoulders! Move out for what! The father does not have the income to support the family and will just cause more frustration!
her mother is a ***** and lori cant think for her self she still a little girl
Oh why didn't the dad take Aiden home! If he had the support he claimed he could of told lori I'll take him home and raise him! F the weirdos! I still cry when I see the rerun!
I so agree. She was holding out and when she had to make a choice she had none. it was be homeless with baby or give the baby away. The house was big enough to say you keep him you take care of him you work and pay rent. Cold hearted ppl these two "parents". But what about his parets or family why didn't they give him a chance to take the baby?
he can feel it's his mom stupid woman! I can't stand this lady, she is not a mom! A real mom always thinks with her heart not with your head only duh... Poor Lori has no say, I wish she could of found a person who would of supported her during this time and she could of kept her baby. These old people "so called parents" don't let her be her, and this interview speaks louder than anything look her "mom" took over.. Ugghh I hope they loose all their friends (the mom and dad") These are truely cold hearted people, and when she gave birth she said oh it looks apinful, nuh!! really? stupid woman!
u do need to defend ur love for ur children...u totally forced her to give that baby up. u say ur older and wiser, and u've never carried a baby for 9 months and went through labor and delivery..u have never experienced it. u made her and cory make that decision...u stayed on top of them and reacting negatively to anything to do with the baby. lori says she made the decision, but thats bull crap...a real mother sticks by her child no matter whether they agree with her decisions or not. i mean there was a reason she didn't or couldn't have her own children...she wasn't supposed to, because she doesn't know how to do it..i hope lori's mother has the demons in her head and regret for the rest of her life
I totally agree that the mom is doing all the talking on this one....If the mom really wanted she could have helped her raise that child and could have supported her is getting her diploma! I agree with open adoption but NOT in this case....for once actually I dont agree that Lori 's "choice" was the right one..