The tension between Rivals 3 teammates Camila and Tony has been noticeably boiling during the past few installments -- and during tonight's episode, the two unfortunately reached their breaking point. And, as a result of a late-night fight, the athletically strong team was disqualified from the competition and sent home.
Before diving into the life lessons viewers can take away from this incident, here's bit of context about the difficult disagreement, which occurred after a night out in Mexico during which drinking was involved. Upon arriving back home, the Real World: Skeletons alum went to bed while the Battle of the Exes champ opted to stay awake. Eventually, she tripped and suffered a nasty fall -- and blamed Vince for her subsequent injuries (even though he denied his involvement).
Camila's tumble — and her eventual words with Vince — should have ended there, but it didn't. Vince and his cousin Johnny Bananas woke up Tony and told him that he needed to "shut it down" and get his partner to go to sleep. But the relatives' plan seriously backfired: When the Louisiana native repeatedly yelled at Camila that it was time for her to retire for the evening, she resisted.
The disagreement intensified and verbal threats of violence ensued. From there, he began kicking around kitchen items and backed her into a corner while they screamed at each other in close physical proximity. Vince, Jamie, and Devin eventually stepped in to remove Tony and get the two apart — but the damage had been done. And the next morning, TJ delivered some sobering news.
"Tony and Camila — you were separated and kept apart last night, but we here at the Challenge take what happened very seriously," the longtime host told the group. "You're out of here, get your stuff."
Unfortunately, this is not the first time we've seen this type of outburst on the long-running series. Taking this into consideration, MTV News spoke with The Jed Foundation — a national nonprofit that promotes emotional health among teens and young adults — and asked for some helpful guidelines if you or someone close to you struggles with anger management.
"While most of us can’t relate to the dynamics of being on a reality show competition with a rival, anger is something that we all deal with in our daily lives," Courtney Knowles, a spokesperson for Jed, explains. "Anger isn’t always just about the person or situation that is making you mad. Anger can be a symptom of depression or anxiety. It’s important not to overlook anger that feels like it is interfering with our day-to-day lives."
What should you do if you or someone you know is feeling so much aggression toward a person or situation that it interferes with work or relationships? Here are some pointers:
Anger is often an instantaneous and instinctual response to an incident — and it can range from mild annoyance to an overwhelming rage. If you find yourself feeling overpowered by your emotions, take a few minutes to breathe deeply or take a walk so you can calm down.
2) Step away
Statements said in the heat of the moment are rarely well thought-out, and it's impossible to take them back. If you find yourself really annoyed, it’s better just to admit those feelings and walk away to think about your response. An example of an appropriate statement: “I just need a few minutes to be alone and get my thoughts together.”
3) Think about it
Logic can be anger’s worst enemy. We’re often angry about things that we’ve misinterpreted or blown out of proportion. We may think a friend did something on purpose to upset us, but when we look closer at the situation, we realize it was unintentional. Or, something that really outraged us may seem less important on second thought.
4) Express it (the right way)
Sometimes we get angry because the same things keep happening over and over. Addressing these issues in a moment of anger can make things worse. But it is important to bring it up in the right way because the other person(s) involved may not realize they are making you angry — and they may be able to change things to improve the situation.
5) Get help
We can train and improve our emotional health — just like with physical health. Just because someone may be more prone to anger doesn’t mean they can’t learn to control it. Counselors can share exercises and treatments that will make it easier to cope with anger and make it less likely that those feelings will interfere with the important parts of your life.
If you would like more information about anger management, or to find resources for getting help, please visit halfofus.com.