“Most women — regardless of sexual orientation — do not send the first message, with straight woman 3.5x less likely to compared to straight men,” a new report from OkCupid reads.
Regardless of how often girls are messaged or how attractive they are, the website’s statistics show girls aren’t initiating conversations as much as guys are. Here’s why you should consider breaking that pattern.
Of all the things in the world ain’t nobody got time for, waiting for someone to start talking to you on an app is pretty high on the list. You have stuff to do, places to go. When someone catches your eye, fire off that message and get on with your fabulous life.
You’re in control
The first message sets the tone for the rest of the conversation, so you can break the ice with something you actually WANT to talk about. Plus, you won’t have to deal with cheesy and/or rude pickup lines.
You’re more likely to get a response
For all you Hunger Games fans out there, the odds are literally in your favor when you start the convo. More specifically, OkCupid found that women who make the first move are 2.5 times more likely to get a response. Win!
You’ll chat with hotter people
Dating is obviously about more than looks, but don’t lie to yourself, appearance is a big reason why you swipe right or left. And according to OkCupid’s research, if you only talk to people who message you first, you’re missing out on a whole bunch of good-looking dudes who likely just haven’t gotten a chance to check the app yet.
“Based on what we know, if you’re a woman and receive a message, the man who sent it is about 5 percentile points less attractive than you,” OkCupid reports. “But if you send the first hello, the man is about 7 percentile points more attractive than you.”
Use that information however you please. ?
You’ll stand out in a good way
If you’re one of the few girls who has the guts to message a new match, they’ll definitely notice you and (hopefully!) be just as into you as you are into them.
It gives you confidence
Who said girls need to wait for a guy to make the first move, anyway? You don’t abide by silly, outdated “rules.”
You’ll become a pro at asking people out in real life
Approaching a new potential crush is nerve-wracking both online and offline, but the more you do it, it easier it becomes. Practice makes perfect, right? Once you’re used to saying hello to new people on your phone, saying hello to that cutie you’ve been eyeing across the room seems much less scary.