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5 Ways To Shut It Down If Someone Calls You A Slut

Calling someone a slut is not cool, but there are plenty of very cool ways to respond if someone throws shade your way.

On tonight's episode of "True Life" we met 3 young women who are dealing with an all-too-common problem: Slut-shaming.

Whether they are hearing it from their friends or family, the impact this has on Della, Rosa, Shakirah and is heartbreaking. Each woman is faced with the challenge of wanting to freely express her sexuality, while dealing with jabs and judgements from the people she cares about the most.

In Della's case, it was her friends Clint and Jason that wouldn't stop commenting on her sex life. In Della's opinion, the guys believed that because they had both hooked up with Della in the past, they could say whatever they wanted about her. This ranged from commenting on her outfits, to shouting, "We've got a slut as 12 o'clock!" across a crowded restaurant. On several occasions this drove Della to tears, but the guys were unrelenting in their harassment.

"They say a man can sleep with a hundred women and he's a legend," said Clint, one of Della's friends. "A woman sleeps with a hundred men and she's a slut."

Della tried to make the guys understand why slut-shaming her was so messed up, but in the end, putting up with this double standard was not worth it to Della. She realizes that if a friend calls you a slut, they're not actually a friend.

Calling someone a slut is not cool, but there are plenty of very cool ways to respond if someone throws that word your way.

Here are a few ideas:

  1. "Don't judge a book by it's crop top."
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    Unfortunately, slut-shaming happens to women no matter what they do or wear, so you should feel free to wear whatever you want anyway. People who call you a slut aren't interested in getting to know you better -- they just want to control the way you feel, and make themselves feel bigger than you. If you feel awesome in a crop top you should go for it. Having the confidence to love yourself and not care what other people say or think is always going to be your best asset.

  2. "Shut it down."
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    As Laci Green pointed out in last week's "Braless," even powerful celebrities get caught up in slut-shaming, which can make it seem acceptable to their fans.

    But calling a woman a slut is an attempt to take away her power, and demean her for being sexual, even if she's never had a single sexual encounter in her life. It prioritizes modesty and perceived innocence above all else, and often includes intimations about a woman's class, intelligence, and overall worth. Because of all of this, slut-shaming is basically the least feminist thing you can do. Remember that the next time someone calls themselves a feminist, and then turns around and another woman a "ho."

  3. "You don't even know what that word means."

    As Larry Wilmore highlighted on "The Nightly Show" last week, a lot of times people hurl the word slut at each other frivilously, and in his day was defined as "a girl who developed faster than you both physically and emotionally; she dabbled in healthy sexual experimentation, which was intimidating; or she refused to have sex with you, which was frustrating.”

    While it might be nice if the word disappeared all together, Wilmore's definition helps re-distribute the power of the insult so it's the person using the word slut who seems pathetic, as opposed to a woman's sexuality being the butt of the joke.

  4. "What Is This, 1953?!"

    Dude, get with the times! Women are sexual, and freely expressing their sexuality all over the damn place. Owning this part of their lives and their bodies is super empowering for women, and isn't a reflection of if they are "good" or "bad" -- it just means that they enjoy sex, which is totally natural.

  5. "Can I Live?"

    It's your life! You can have sex with whomever you want, just be safe and smart about it. For more information about safe sex, visit ItsYourSexLife.com