You guys started out as a friends with benefits, but lately, it’s seeming more and more like you’re in a relationship with obligations. Despite your best attempts to remain business casual, you may have unintentionally broken protocol and charmed your way into this dude’s heart. Here are seven signs that in your quest to get a little nookie, you got yourself a boyfriend.

He remembers details about your friends

To a guy who is just in it for sex, the specifics of Stacy’s bad break up and Tracy’s annoying passive aggressive comments are an indistinguishable pile of useless information that he has to smile and nod his way through until it’s time for more boinking. If a familiar light sparks in his eyes at the mention of one of your girlfriends, you are his girlfriend.

You guys hung out on Valentine’s Day

No sane single man hangs out with his bootie call on Valentine’s Day. If you guys hung out on the 14th, you’re his number 1. End of story.

You have inside jokes with him

Inside jokes can come from a lot of places: sexual mishaps, rude waiters, weirdos at the movie theater — in other words, the things that happen when you’re dating. If you’re spending enough time together that you have inside jokes, then you guys likely share not only a sense of humor, but also a relationship. Sorry.

He and your kitty are pals

If you two are strictly getting freaky, he wants nothing to do with that pussy cat. He might tolerate her. He might even learn her name so that he doesn’t have to ask you to please “get that thing off the bed.” For the most part, however, your pet is a smelly nuisance and an insufferable allergen. (To him. We know she’s a perfect beautiful angel.) If he’s bonded with your fur child, he’s fixing to be her fur stepfather.

His favorite hoodie is your favorite thing to wear

Have you been spending most nights curled up in front of the TV in his beloved Carhartt? Hopefully it will warm your heart, then, that he considers you his main squeeze. Not what you were looking for? Sorry, sister, but you can’t have your stolen hoodie and eat some other guy’s face too.

You guys have made dinner together

While a meal together certainly doesn’t constitute a relationship, making one is pretty much a recipe for exclusivity. There’s a big difference between ordering take out to refuel after an epic boff session and spending a night in dicing zucchini. If he’s partaken in a disgusting display of domestic bliss with you, he definitely thinks romance is simmering.

He talks about fixing stuff around your apartment

If he’s mentioned taking care of that leaky faucet or brought up the idea of bringing his (other) set of tools over to fix that busted door jam, it’s not because he’s, like, really into carpentry. He’s, like, really into you. Guys show affection by fixing things, and if you suspect that he might be under the impression that he’s your boyfriend because he brings over his power drill, you may have just hit the nail on the head.