Everyone on the face of the planet has dealt with unrequited love—if you haven’t, then you’re in the minority, and you’re a lucky duck. But there’s only one pop star who has practically built a career off the subject, and that’s Taylor Swift.
Which is probably why one of her fans thought Taylor would be the perfect person to reach out to about her own personal dead-end crush. A young Swiftian named Hannah aka Instagram user @sherbetswift tagged Taylor in a long Instagram comment about why her girl-next-door role was breaking her heart.
Hannah’s comment read: “There’s a guy Taylor, a guy who’s sweet and charming and makes me laugh. A guy who said sorry for eating in front of me after finding out I had to skip breakfast. A guy who grew up across the street from me. A guy who plays guitar like me. A guy who was my first best friend. A guy who I met when I was seven and he was nine. A guy who this one time, when we were younger, said that I was ’like’ his girlfriend because I was a girl and his friend. I wish. A guy who I have the biggest crush in the whole wide world on, and he’ll never like me back. (And he has a girlfriend who he adores and she’s pretty and has an amazing figure and is actually nice to me). A guy who will never like me back. @taylorswift can you give me some advice maybe. I love you. Hannah ❤️”
A lot of fans tag celebrities in their posts, but few actually expect a response. In this case, Hannah got one, and it’s pretty much the best advice about unrequited love that anyone has ever written. First, Taylor started by noticing—along with the rest of us—that Hannah’s eyes are breath-taking.
“Hannah. Eyes, eyes, eyes. Woah. You have the prettiest, widest, most child like eyes. (Composes herself),” Swift wrote, then continued on. “Okay. About this guy. I think we grow up thinking the only love that counts as true love is the kind that lasts forever or is fully realized. When you have a broken heart, the first thing a stranger will ask is ’how long were you two together?’ As if your pain can be determined by how long you were with someone. Or if you were with them at all. I don’t think that’s how it works. I think unrequited love is just as valid as any other kind. It’s just as crushing and just as thrilling. No matter what happens in this situation, I want you to remember that what you are doing is selfless and beautiful and kind. You are loving someone purely because you love them, not because you think you’ll ever have your affections reciprocated. You are admiring something for its beauty, without needing to own it. Feel good about being the kind of person who loves selflessly. I think someday you’ll find someone who loves you in that exact same way.”
I’m not sure there’s anything else to even add to that? A lot of pop stars talk about being role models, but seeing a fan that’s hurting and actually taking the time to reach out and share wisdom? That’s incredible. Thank you Taylor, not just for giving this advice to Hannah, but for giving it to all of us.