Everywhere Gwen Stefani turns, she’s surrounded by boys.
In addition to her years as the platinum-blond lead singer of No Doubt, fronting the three main fellas in the group, she’s also the matriarch of the Rossdale/Stefani family — which also includes three guys.
“I have all these boys in my house!” she tells Vogue magazine about raising her two sons with husband, Gavin Rossdale. The pair has been together for 16 years, and Stefani explained how they’ve managed to keep the fire burning for so long.
“It’s pride … You feel proud. There are just so many rewards that come with it. You have to work at it. But, actually, it’s fun to get to this point. Because you learn so much about somebody. It’s like these wars that go on and then you kind of get through it to the other side, and it’s like, Wow,” she said, having celebrated her 10-year wedding anniversary in September.
“And obviously, you get stronger. And then having kids takes the whole relationship to another place. It is the ultimate collaboration. Both of us have such strong opinions about how it should be, and it’s really fun to do it together.”
But, she says, she’s different from her longtime love in the way they create music. “He’s the busiest person I know, always songwriting,” she said. “Gavin says, ‘Oh, you’re doing your thing that you do,’ and I’m like, ‘I don’t have a thing. It’s just hard: writing it, recording it, finishing it. I am not like Prince, where it just flows out and God comes through me.’ I never write unless I have to. Gavin does. All the time. He’s more of a genuine artist in that way.”
However, her enthusiasm for togetherness and making music is also evident when she talks about her relationship with her bandmates. Inside the pages of the magazine, she opens up about a school fundraiser the longtime musical comrades played after years apart, ahead of dropping their recent studio release, Push and Shove .
“There’s such a chemistry, this electricity between us, we can just do it,” she said. “We can do it anywhere.”
Their eagerness to still make music comes after nearly three decades together. And while they are grown adults with families, she says, she kind of feels like she never grew up herself.
“To do all that while sustaining this insane childhood of my own. … I’ve never had to grow up in a way. When you think about it, we were in college together, and then we made our first record, and then we just took off and stayed in this bubble. Time kind of stops when you’re in a band,” she said. “It’s this suspended childhood, and it’s really awesome, that part of it. But then when you have a family of your own, it forces you to go into the adult world a little bit more.”